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Graham Bonnet Video Shoot Venice Beach

grahambonnetcrewWhat fun I had having the opportunity to work on a music video for Graham Bonnet. I assisted for this shoot with Eric Michael Schrader and Kevin Miller. Thanks to Eric, Kevin and Conrado Pesinato for the opp! See behind the scenes photos of the shoot in Venice Beach on our Enclave FB page HERE.

Watch the official video “The Mirror Lies” HERE

Song available for download HERE

High Horse In A Glass House


As some of you know, I live in Hollywood, CA and I work in TV, film and web production on both sides. Both sides meaning in front of the camera and behind the camera.

Just like any other work field, there is a hierarchy of job positions. The totem is very tall and so are the egos usually. Although I have noticed that the super famous people who you work with are usually the nicest!

Anyway, I was on set last week and an actor started asking me if I knew who ‘so and so’ was and if I knew who this actor was. I knew of the projects that this unnamed actor had starred in, but I couldn’t picture their face. You know how it is, there are soooo many actors and names in your head that the match game can be tough.

So the actor who was talking about this other actor who has a great resume, said that he went to one of the Starbucks in Hollywood and saw this unemployed actor, employed at Starbucks now.

The actor I was chatting with said he talked to the now Starbucks Barista and pointed out that the Barista was the former star of such and such projects. He said the unnamed actor played ‘dumb’ about his acting resume and apparently got red faced about the conversation.

“I can’t believe he was working at Starbucks! If I were famous I would never be seen working at Starbucks. I would get a job in an office where I didn’t have to see anybody,” said the guy I was chatting with.

THIS is not okay people. This guy is shaming another person for having a different kind of job. So what- the former actor isn’t starring in a show right now. He’s making ends meet and working a job at Starbucks. Or maybe this actor doesn’t want to act anymore?

I hear people say condescending things like this all of the time. There is nothing wrong with taking a job in the food and beverage industry, janitorial, service industry or any work field that isn’t considered “glamourous.”

Life is tough and a lot of us are in poverty or close to it. We have so many bills and responsibilities, that we have to work our asses off to make ends meet.

Being ‘out of work’ or ‘unemployed’ sucks. Especially when you knock on a thousand doors and you get nothing back for sometimes a year!

Never be ashamed of working anywhere to make your income. Don’t let some person degrade you or disrespect you in your current position. They are ignorant and have their own perceptive distortion disorder.

BE PROUD of yourself and the job you have. BE RESPECTFUL to others servicing you.

If you do your best at whatever job you are doing, then you will feel good about yourself no matter what. Do not let someone else’s perception dictate your perception.


To Cut, Or Cover Your Crust Is The Question

pbjAs a child, I used to have the crust cut off of my peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. I look back at my youth, and wonder why crust was not appealing.

Crust is excessive. It’s in the way. The peanut butter nor the jelly usually makes it to the crust, unless the painter works hard to cover the edges. It’s boring to children. Children want color and fun. Non-painted crust is neither.

So, to make the sandwich even more interesting, I demanded hearts and designs be carved onto the peanut butter and jelly. Sometimes I would request my name, but I really liked the signature heart shape my Mom would carve onto my sandwich. The crustless wonder sandwich with a heart in the middle was it!

Is the act of covering the edges, cutting the crust off or carving a design into the sandwich a sign of good integrity? Or when it comes to being a parent, are parents just selfless? Is being selfless a whole other level when it comes to the relationship between parents and children? » Read more

Has Mystery In Relationships Become Obsolete?


What if it was like the old days when your loved ones would jump in their horse n’ carriage and ride off for days, months and even years! How neat would it be to run to the mailbox everyday, hoping you received a letter from that loved one who is miles away? The mystery combined with the anticipation was a magical concoction, creating a novel-like steamy romance!

Those days of being a naive prairie woman who waits, and waits some more for that love letter to come in the mail, are well over obviously. The reality is, we all know a Disney ending doesn’t exist. The Bachelor is staged too! But there is something that did stick with humanity through all of those hard times, and it is an important element that must be preserved now!

An epidemic that I see happening, and that prairie woman did not have any problem with, is that the element of ‘mystery’ has almost become obsolete.

Today, we can all communicate in seconds from opposite ends of the world. Information is communicated so fast now, there isn’t much mystery left between people since we all share everything! Although communication styles are new, people still long for that old-fashioned romance which is packed with mystery. The only way to have that old-fashioned style romance is to create mystery!

The only way to keep that essential mystery in a connection, is to create mystery! Don’t tell any full story in a text message/email/IM. Save it for the physical interaction, or else you will NOT have anything to talk about when you meet up! If you can’t meet in person for a long time, then save the thoughts and stories for an actual phone call, but don’t tell them every single detail. You need to keep your mate curious or else they’ll get bored. I’m even talking to you people who are in long-term relationships. You have to keep that flame burning too.

In conclusion, essential mystery in romance can exist, only if you decide to make it exist! Without mystery, there’s no curiosity, and without curiosity, boredom is born.