What if it was like the old days when your loved ones would jump in their horse n’ carriage and ride off for days, months and even years! How neat would it be to run to the mailbox everyday, hoping you received a letter from that loved one who is miles away? The mystery combined with the anticipation was a magical concoction, creating a novel-like steamy romance!
Those days of being a naive prairie woman who waits, and waits some more for that love letter to come in the mail, are well over obviously. The reality is, we all know a Disney ending doesn’t exist. The Bachelor is staged too! But there is something that did stick with humanity through all of those hard times, and it is an important element that must be preserved now!
An epidemic that I see happening, and that prairie woman did not have any problem with, is that the element of ‘mystery’ has almost become obsolete.
Today, we can all communicate in seconds from opposite ends of the world. Information is communicated so fast now, there isn’t much mystery left between people since we all share everything! Although communication styles are new, people still long for that old-fashioned romance which is packed with mystery. The only way to have that old-fashioned style romance is to create mystery!
The only way to keep that essential mystery in a connection, is to create mystery! Don’t tell any full story in a text message/email/IM. Save it for the physical interaction, or else you will NOT have anything to talk about when you meet up! If you can’t meet in person for a long time, then save the thoughts and stories for an actual phone call, but don’t tell them every single detail. You need to keep your mate curious or else they’ll get bored. I’m even talking to you people who are in long-term relationships. You have to keep that flame burning too.
In conclusion, essential mystery in romance can exist, only if you decide to make it exist! Without mystery, there’s no curiosity, and without curiosity, boredom is born.